I've Met a Guy!

[Chanda]

Ok, So out of no where I meet theis guy and he is really nice. Actually we went out for the last couple of fridays. He asked me to come spend the weekend at his house. I'm kind of scared, it's been so long since I've stayed the night with someone other than Barn.

Should I go?

[surfinspacegirl]

Ok, So out of no where I meet theis guy and he is really nice. Actually we went out for the last couple of fridays. He asked me to come spend the weekend at his house. I'm kind of scared, it's been so long since I've stayed the night with someone other than Barn.

Should I go?

:wtf:

Personally I have to wonder why you are asking questions like that on a public message board, especially one that Barn can see and where a couple of days ago you posted "getting back the love of my life" as one of your passions and the *same* one where you posted that "Barn is the love of my life".

[Chanda]

Well that was before he started asking for cute single girls to go on the ski trip and trying to find out who a girl is to ask to his x-mas party..

He is my love and I will always love him but he has asked me to move on and be happy. Thats what I'm trying to do. If i had a choice to stay with Barn this weekend and work on the things we have said to eachother and work on getting back together. I would drop this guy in a sec.
I can't excuse the things I've done to him I can only say how sorry I am and I've been doing that for 2 weeks now, he has expressed that he wants to be single and I only wish him the best.
There are girls on here that are my friends and asking their advice on something I didn't see as a bad thing.

[surfinspacegirl]

Well that was before he started asking for cute single girls to go on the ski trip and trying to find out who a girl is to ask to his x-mas party..
So you admit you're simply retaliating to get back at Barn. Leave it out, sister :roll:

He is my love and I will always love him but he has asked me to move on and be happy. Thats what I'm trying to do. If i had a choice to stay with Barn this weekend and work on the things we have said to eachother and work on getting back together. I would drop this guy in a sec. I can't excuse the things I've done to him I can only say how sorry I am and I've been doing that for 2 weeks now, he has expressed that he wants to be single and I only wish him the best.

As I've said before (and you agreed), this is between you & Barn, and not for public consumption. Leave it off the board.

There are girls on here that are my friends and asking their advice on something I didn't see as a bad thing.

Well, I think most of us would appreciate it if you asked them in private. It's called email. Use it.

[shacheri]

Hey Chanda,

we haven't met yet, but I have read some of your posts. I gather you are a single mom with a little one at home.

I am going to say somethings here that you probably won't like.

I am venturing a guess that lonliness and insecurity probably plays a big part of your daily existence. I am venturing a guess that you derive a lot of your self-esteem from male attention. And I am venturing a guess that your behavior and choices are directly related to how you think you can best get that male attention.

I was a single mom of 3 for 12 years. And looking back, know I made some stupid choices for the very same things I just mentioned above.

Thankfully I came to my senses a few years back and started to really think about what I was doing and why.

To your question of whether you should spend the night with someone you just met who seems nice? I have to ask you WHY? Why would you do that? Not only are you putting yourself at risk, but if the stories in the newspapers are any indication, you are putting your child at risk as well.

You are a valuable human being with a tremendous opportunity to live your life well. Start thinking about yourself with this in mind and decide not to just throw away your future on chance.

As it sounds now, you sound clingy and desperate....sorry, I know that had to hurt....and I don't say that to hurt you.

There is a small book that I highly recommend you find and read. It's called, If the Buddah Dated...a fantastic read and really impacted my life.

Spend sometime writing down exactly what you want your life to look like. Who you want to be, what you want to do, where you want to live, and who you want to love.....and start makiing THAT your reality!

hang in there, you will get this figured out!

from one single mom to another...

[Thorn]

Okay...here we go...I was not going to post tonight...but after laying down to go to sleep and not being able to...I am back up.

Chanda...you and I are friends...and I am here for you as a girlfriend. Which is what I think you need right now.

I am not here to judge...I have made so many mistakes in my own life that I have NO room to talk!! However I shall put in my vote on this one.

1) I would not talk about that kind of stuff on the board. If it was for revenge (not saying it was) I can understand!! But, making Barn jelous (I can never spell that word...I will have to ask my 9 year old tomorrow :? ) does not bring love...it will only push you two and anything that may happen in the future farther apart. But, I do understand loving someone so much that you are desperate to get any emotion you can.

2) The bigger issue...DON'T SLEEP WITH HIM!!! You really should take some time to get over your hurt. The other BIG lesson I have learned...your body and your entire self is a gift and should not be shared lightly!! If you do, it will only make your worth less. Take a trip to the toy store and you will feel much better!! ;)

I know if you take the time to find yourself...it may be lonely (REALLY LONELY) for a while...but I think you will be a much happier woman at the end!!

3) The lesson I have learned just recently is don't count out the girls!!! I have found a lot of happiness thru real friendships with other woman...they llike you for who you are...and you don't even have to sleep with them...if you don't want :shock: hehe.

I really wish I had learned so many of these lessons a long time ago!!! I hope you take my words for what they were meant to be....advise to a friend!

[Thorn]

Wow...that was pretty much toooo serious for me...I need a good bananna dance to send me off to bed!!! :bananna: :bananna: :hump: :bananna:

After do'n the dance with the big bananna...I AM READY FOR BED!!! Girls...I miss ya!! I will be there next time out....so we can dance like the wild passion fruit.... :bananna:

That doesn't sound right!!