Through dangers untold and hardships unnumbered, I have fought my way here...

[Vance]

Since I've bored many of you with rather loquacious extemporization about my divorce and my rather ignominious relationship with my ex wife on many many levels...

At last the day has come... or near enough for me... that I can officially post GOOD news on my front of the battle for equality and normalcy in a post-divorce life.

4 years of fighting with the ex wife about both incredibly important and far too often stupid stuff...

2 years of dancing around the specific subject off and on until recently...

At last...
Through an email notification last night...
I received word that:

Most likely on January 1, 2009
I will at last be granted 50/50 custody of my children!!!

Details are forthcoming from the Decision Maker on my case as to the how and exact date of when - but he did confirm it will be 50/50 and it will be either just before, on, or just after the first of the year.

I am what some people may call "a happy camper" right now.

That is all.

[Suki]

congrats vance!!!

[utsv650]

as a kid with divorced parents since i was about 5, 50/50 is as good as it gets ;-) jus dont compete with the other... it is more annoying than anything

[MetaLord 9]

Congrats!!! Maybe you can use some of that time with them to bequeath your somewhat extensive vocabulary

[Devaclis]

That is awesome Vance

[200sr20]

Congrats!!!!!

[VFR]

Your the only person I know that New Years Resolution will come true on New Years

[PROFLYER]

Sweet, as a 50/50 child myself don't let you kids pull the "well mom says we can" bullshit, it worked for us for a bit but Dad squashed that quick!

[puckstr]

Nice ...you can claim "head of Household" on your taxes if they live with you 6 months out of the year

[suzinpink]

Congrats on battles well fought and a war won my friend

[Mother Goose]

Good to hear Vancey Pants!

[Nick_Ninja]

I hope the pins from your wrist are removed before you start entertaining the rug-rats in your domicile. I'm sure you could lay a nasty backhand to their mugs if needed.

[CYCLE_MONKEY]

Too cool! Congrats man!

[Squisha]

I admire your tenacity...too often Dads bow to all the odds stacked against them. Good for you!

[nattynoo]

Congratulations! Awesome news

[Sortarican]

Vance,
How do you expect to be able to afford to provide for those children if you go around tossing out $10 words like that all the time?
(Think: Monosyllabic. If you need help ask Chris.)


Congrat's man! I'm happy for you.

[Squisha]

(Think: Monosyllabic. If you need help ask Chris.)

I love men who can spell big words.

[BigE]

Congrats Vance, kids need their Dads in this day and age.

[ihavealegohead]

Very kewl!!

It's great to see Dads getting 50% of their kids time. Not so long ago you would get every other Wednesday and one weekend a month.

I got 50% right after I packed my x's bags and sent her ass straight out the front door !!

I eventually did get married again (though not too quick have some fun !!) and couldn't be any happier.

[Devaclis]

Your sig picture is VERY true.

[Scer]

Congrats Vance. That's really good news man!!

visit on visitas

[SamuraiX]

Congratulations Vance! Great to hear some GOOD news these days!

[Vitesse]

Through dangers untold and hardships unnumbered, I have fought my way here............to the castle beyond the goblin city to take back the children that you have stolen.

I just had to finish that quote cuz it bothered me until I remembered what it was from!

Also, congrats on the good news!!

[Vance]

Hey all,

Thanks for the kind words and support... especially the support for the last four years of dealing with this on-again-off-again nightmare of dealing with my ex and the oft negativity it has caused in me.

That said...
I just received the actual long version of the ruling yesterday from the Decision Maker and it is everything I wanted it to be in regards to the "how" of engagement.

Basically now instead of having to take the kids back to her in the evenings of the days that were my "visitation" time... they're now just going to stay overnight. So for the kids - the transition / adjustment is almost non-existent since they've already been asking why they just can't do this anyway.

Again... thank you all.
The absinthe will be flowing soon in honor of this monumental event in my life. I may actually experience the concept of inebriation for the first time!