How do you deal with a breakup???

[Suki]

mustard seed poo, yum.

[mtnairlover]

i understand that but you can't say that every single guy or girl that finds out they are going to become a parent will change. as i said, most do, but there are still a great amount that do not.

I second that motion...er, emotion, er...

And that's why I be single now. Nothing like hearing promise after promise get broken day after day, month after month...er yeah, you get the picture. Amazing I ain't just a tad more messed up maself after 16 years of that shtuff. And what really irks me to this day? We had this long, drawn out conversation before I got preggers the first time. The point of the discussion was "growing up!" and I was 24, he was 28...gah! He swears he doesn't remember that discussion. Some people never, ever get it.

[ghost-whiner]

... drawn out conversation before I got preggers the first time. The point of the discussion was "growing up!" and I was 24, he was 28...gah! He swears he doesn't remember that discussion. Some people never, ever get it.

It seems they never remember the conversations that remind them of responsibility.

[jimwallace]

no one ever had to have that discussion with me : pats self on back:

[Chupasmevelga]

1st you have to ask yourself what caused the breakup. And has it happened before, and what can you do differently the next time.

[CYCLE_MONKEY]

Knowing one is pregnant DOES make them change overnight.

+1000

[danielj2345]

one thing that was key for me recently was deleting or blocking my ex from my online life. if you can see their pics...their status etc. it will only continue to dig at you. you might be inclined to keep looking etc. but it will only drag you down. as they move on you will still be looking at pics and be stuck in the past. i know i did it. out of sight= makes it easier for (out of mind). new experiences and memories shield or replace the old. gluck

[IT WASN'T ME!]

I have seen it mentioned off hand couple people who went through breakups recently, divorces, ends to things that they didn't want to end.

So, out of curiosity, how do you deal with the end to a relationship? We are talking involved (year+ not weeks/months), deeply caring for someone and it ends, well, not so mutually (like, surprise!! my ex is moving back and I never gave a shit about you).



Figure this might be a nice change of something to talk about without the political BS

I'm sorry for your heartbreak. The world is full of users who string someone along until what they see as a better offer comes along. They stay with you so they won't be alone, or to get help with finances, or for regular sex, etc, etc. These are selfish people who tend to look at the world in a whats-in-it-for-me-attitude. I'll bet that if you think back, you will find that he did or said things that should have given you a hint about what he was all about. If you become a better observer, you may be able see these traits in people before they can hurt you. If it helps, the thing with his ex probably won't last. If it would, they wouldn't have broken up in the first place.

[BaldEagle]

Look on the bright side! It was not meant to be Now you are free to do anything you want