Bullshit. The author has decided to equate "nice" with "pushover". I've dated "really attractive" women and I'm very nice, very respectful and still believe in chivalry.
No self-respecting woman is going to date a jerk. Sorry to burst your bubble Mr. DeAngelo. There is a lot of psychological reasons for a woman staying in an emotionally abusive relationship...because she is hot is NOT one of them.
Trying to imply that you have to be a douchebag in order to get a "really attractive" woman is probably the dumbest thing I've heard.
Yeah, have some self-respect man. She doesn't like? Move on. Nothing worse then coming across as a desperate loser.
Men are supposed to be confident in a relationship. Unfortunately we have been taught in this society to be more like women, instead of men. Net result - Lots of guys looking to build "consensus" instead of making a decision.
God this guy has a superficial grasp of male/female interaction...
Women are genetically pre-programed to look for a good provider. Someone able to take care of them and their potential offspring. No women wants a guy who is unemployed and living in their parent's basement. That being said, some guy who makes it a point to flaunt his worldly possessions is just looking for another one (with boobs) and women can smell it.
However, giving gifts (one of the five languages of love) may be how he shows love or how the lady recieves it. How and why the gifts are given are of monumental importance.
Think there is a little bit more nuance to this then this guy understands, but in general, yeah, it's bad form to tell a woman you love her on the second date.
Emotional intimacy comes much later in a relationship. In marketing, you never tell your prospective client the price up front. You show them all the positives first, tell them why they can't live without your product and then once they're sold you tell them the cost. Same with dating. Always stay positive, show her what a great catch you are, and only after you have built that rapport (and thus the necessary framework to communicate and process as a couple) do you express some of the less then flatering aspects of your life. No, this does not mean you gloss over that you been married five times, have 16 kids and have every STD known to man...
You mean women are different then men? Took you five years to figure that one out eh?
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The human psyche loves if-then statements (don't we Sully?
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Totally agree with this one. But once again, this is the way men are conditioned. Women want men to behave, think and act like women (watch Oprah sometime and you'll see exactly what I mean). Women think men are lazy because we don't understand how to talk to them. Well guess what ladies, you don't do the work to understand us either.
We aren't wired like you, we literally
think differently then you and the way we communicate is (big shocker) completely opposite the way you do. You also possess a far greater catalogue of emotions (and the skills to express them) then we EVER will. Some of this has to do with the distrubution of labor in our early history (hunter v. gatherers) and some has to do with the various hormones that we play with (1 for us, 3 for you).
Bullshit, once again. "Women" are not some monolithic, factory produced clone. Every woman is different. A man will be successful if he pays attention, finds out what makes a women happy and provides that for her. Yes, there are some universal truths but even then, the proportions can be different. To much of X, is never a good thing.
Honestly I think this guy is a waste of time. Nothing enlightening to his "how to score with hot chicks" methodology. All it comes down to is knowing who you are, knowing what you want and being open to letting it come to you. Don't settle or it will end badly for everyone...