10 mistakes guys make

[~Barn~]

Ha!

If anything has been learned from me, it should be promptly discarded.

Unless it's basic math. I'm pretty good with basic math.

[Shea]

So somewhat back on topic.

The whole point of the five languages is to know what you want and then express that to your partner. The old adage "you won't get if you don't ask" applies. Tell him/her that is how you give/receive best and hopefully they can follow through.

[Pandora-11]

So somewhat back on topic.

The whole point of the five languages is to know what you want and then express that to your partner. The old adage "you won't get if you don't ask" applies. Tell him/her that is how you give/receive best and hopefully they can follow through.

....and if he doesn't?

[Shea]

Ha!

If anything has been learned from me, it should be promptly discarded.

Unless it's basic math. I'm pretty good with basic math.

And the metric system:

[~Barn~]

So somewhat back on topic.

The whole point of the five languages is to know what you want and then express that to your partner. The old adage "you won't get if you don't ask" applies. Tell him/her that is how you give/receive best and hopefully they can follow through.

Everytime I try and communicate anything like that, I end up getting slapped. I don't suppose any of these 5 languages of yours translate "threesome" into something more palatable, do they?

[Shea]

....and if he doesn't?

If you tell your partner, "this is what I need" and he doesn't follow through... Does he really care for you? Is your happiness important to him? Are you valued in the relationship?

After a while it will feel like this:

More then likely you know what you want. You know what makes you feel happy, valued, important and loved. If you are not getting those things and he's not even trying to listen to you... Well you need to figure out where the relationship is going.

[Shea]

Everytime I try and communicate anything like that, I end up getting slapped. I don't suppose any of these 5 languages of yours translate "threesome" into anything more palatable, do they?

You seriously want an answer to that Barn?

[~Barn~]

You seriously want an answer to that Barn?

Nah, I'm good.

[mtnairlover]

More then likely you know what you want. You know what makes you feel happy, valued, important and loved. If you are not getting those things and he's not even trying to listen to you... Well you need to figure out where the relationship is going.

You know...not that I'm in a relationship right now, but I've got a couple of really awesome guy friends who have figured this out and wanna know something? I really do appreciate that, even if they are just friends.

[Shea]

You know...not that I'm in a relationship right now, but I've got a couple of really awesome guy friends who have figured this out and wanna know something? I really do appreciate that, even if they are just friends.

No one says you can't be this to everyone in your life...

[mtnairlover]

Yeah, but it's a matter of likes/dislikes/needs, etc. If a friend can't fill something in you and visa versa, then the friendship isn't that real, ya know? It's gotta be real, no matter what kind of relationship. Well, at least, that's the way I work best...meh.

[Shea]

Yeah, but it's a matter of likes/dislikes/needs, etc. If a friend can't fill something in you and visa versa, then the friendship isn't that real, ya know? It's gotta be real, no matter what kind of relationship. Well, at least, that's the way I work best...meh.

I know you probably don't mean it this way Cathy, but change they way you talk and you change your life...

No one person or thing can "fill" anything in you. You are perfect and whole, just the way you are. All anyone can do is compliment your life. But that is just me being nitpicky

[milehicitygirl]

As far as I can tell, men are uber-simple creatures. . . they need food, sex, sleep & respect. . . . not necessarily in that order ! LOL

[Big-J]

As far as I can tell, men are uber-simple creatures. . . they need food, sex, sleep & respect. . . . not necessarily in that order ! LOL

Wanna go out? Im hungry!

[mtnairlover]

Yeah, what you said Shea...it's not a "need". When I say I love my friends, it's the ones who accept me for who I am...they are an added bonus in my life...and visa versa. That added bonus is that complement you are talking about.

[milehicitygirl]

Wanna go out? Im hungry!

Nah, you look a little tired. . . .maybe you should get some sleep.

[Shea]

As far as I can tell, men are uber-simple creatures. . . they need food, sex, sleep & respect. . . . not necessarily in that order ! LOL

What we really need is to be needed and useful. But it is a little more nuanced then most women want to figure out.

[Devaclis]

"I miss your whispering eye"

It works every time.

[Pandora-11]

As far as I can tell, men are uber-simple creatures. . . they need food, sex, sleep & respect. . . . not necessarily in that order ! LOL

Yeah....they are easy to please.....what about what we need?....not so easy.

[Pandora-11]

If you tell your partner, "this is what I need" and he doesn't follow through... Does he really care for you? Is your happiness important to him? Are you valued in the relationship?

After a while it will feel like this:

More then likely you know what you want. You know what makes you feel happy, valued, important and loved. If you are not getting those things and he's not even trying to listen to you... Well you need to figure out where the relationship is going.

It's where I am....boohoo

Shea,
You need to take this show on the road. You're better than a shrink.

[Snowman]

So basically what is being said here is that there is nothing a guy can do, so he should just give up until the women can make up their minds?

I see this advice leading to the extinction of our species…

[milehicitygirl]

What we really need is to be needed and useful. But it is a little more nuanced then most women want to figure out.

Need to be needed. . . .ok, I get that.

Make yourself useful. . . . I need you to make me a sandwich and get me a beer !

[Devaclis]

Let's just play tummy sticks!

ROR!!!

[salsashark]

Need to be needed. . . .ok, I get that.

Make yourself useful. . . . I need you to make me a sandwich and get me a beer !

Ok... that's funny right there...

and it's "sammich".