This isn't specific to CSC, and the people who make those statements have a selective memory. There is always somebody flaming, and somebody who knows better... what IS sad, is that the more experienced riders who have so much information, experience and wisdom to share, like Dirk, tend to say very little. Along with that, I agree with you and wish things were nicer on the internet. I also know that's not the reality.
However, what I think Phoenix is really after is validation. Somebody to stand up and say "I know what you're experiencing. It was stupid, and it sucked, but you're through it and moving in the right direction." We all did this around that age, it's part of growing up.
This is probably the best out of all these responses. This thread, those experiences will all be educational to Phoenix, and that is the point. It hurts, stupid hurts, but it's not the end of the world. No harm, no fowl. Just keep swimming.