How do you deal with a breakup???

[jimwallace]

well gizzmo....WELCOME. i am in the same boat...after almost 5 years, have 2 kids, and 2 months ago kerplump.....here i am on my ass.

[TurboGizzmo]

Welcome to the CSC therapy group. It feels better because you find out you're not alone in this. ie everyone else is just as fucked up as you are.

Haha honestly I am not sure how people go on dealing with this. I've been called a stone cold feeler-less person before and this cut to the core.

I decided to take a break from drinking during this because of how i am feeling....bad idea because half the people that find out want to take me out and get me smashed....

Its weird when you try to talk to her and she seems so disconnected and over it.....

Over the years you find out most of your friends get married and move away but you dont mind because you have her (or him) then one day you wake up and its over and you have to crawl back to old friends that are married and happy just to take your mind off things.....

Cathy has good advice but of course "time" takes time ugh

[Snowman]

Fuck you.

[TurboGizzmo]

Yeah the ending sucked. They always do if you want to be honest. But the rest of movie was good. Like the beginning when he's like "We'll take some artsy pictures, make some videos, have some friends over. You'll get paid. Don't worry." That was some funny shit.
Just thought I'd mention it.

Yes it was very funny, but i was like "humm sounds like a good idea" then I am like "F&@k that back fired"

[jimwallace]

Make sure you DO NOT RIDE with alot on your mind. Riding takes to much concentration. It is better to plan short rides to locations that will not take alot from the enjoyment of riding. If you catch yourself thinking "what did I just pass the last mile or so?" stop, regain your senses, and get home safely.

this is exactly why it helps me so much. i crank some tunes and COMPLETELY tune in to the road and ride. no other thoughts. pure release.

[Sortarican]

. ie everyone else is just as fucked up as you are.

Well maybe not as fucked up as you....but yeah, we're pretty out there.

(J/K man)

oh and Jeff, why do half of your posts look like they belong in the "things you could buy at Wal-Mart that would make the cashier look at you funny" thread?

What can I say, I like one stop shopping.

Fuck you.

Really?!?!?
One single F-Bomb?......That's it?

Dude, you're waisting your potential.

.... If you catch yourself thinking "what did I just pass the last mile or so?" stop, regain your senses, and get home safely.

Oh Shit! What if you have to ask yourself that every single ride?
(I may have dementia.)

[Snowman]

There is something to be said about using diversions to get distance from your problems. I ride often to get away from my problems. It allows for a different perspective once you get off the bike, then you can figure out the possibilities you were too close to see before.

[~Barn~]

So just where is this double wide livin, 3.2 beer drinking, redneck reality you live in?
Honestly man stop trying to live those drunk cowboy songs.

Fuck you.

Now there's some ga'damn honesty, right there!

[asp_125]

[Wyck]

Yeah Mel.... Get ahold of Kristina. I'm certain that further despressing news is exactly what you need for recovery.

Geez. I only said that because quite a few people mentioned it. I didn't want to bore or depress you or anyone else by posting my reasons. Honestly I figured she would know why I would say that. I certainly didn't expect a PM from her or anyone else but I also didn't want to get called out for not explaining myself.



Oh and another thing I found that really helps me when I have a lot on my mind is going on walks or hikes out in the middle of nowhere. Just me and the trees. Find a nice quiet spot and just sit there and breathe it in. Very peaceful.

[~Barn~]

You know I'm just hackin' on you, Wycktina.

[Nick_Ninja]

Relationships are the debil

[DavidofColorado]

Really?!?!?
One single F-Bomb?......That's it?

Dude, you're waisting your potential.

I don't want to waste my potential on him.

I could have talked about him "Taking in the rear for a beer." Being a cum guzzleing, cock holster... But I don't think that he's ready to come out the closet yet.

Besides Snowman is ALRIGHT in my book.

[CYCLE_MONKEY]

So you’re saying you don’t like being on top?

Nope, he's definately a "bottom".....

[CYCLE_MONKEY]

....I usually just stalk them until they give in......

[TurboGizzmo]

Geez. I only said that because quite a few people mentioned it. I didn't want to bore or depress you or anyone else by posting my reasons. Honestly I figured she would know why I would say that. I certainly didn't expect a PM from her or anyone else but I also didn't want to get called out for not explaining myself.



Oh and another thing I found that really helps me when I have a lot on my mind is going on walks or hikes out in the middle of nowhere. Just me and the trees. Find a nice quiet spot and just sit there and breathe it in. Very peaceful.

The logic is there why not to do it for me:

-Hoping she will come back.....
-End up transferring feelings immediately to the next person with out cooling off from this relationship
-Dont need anymore drama while i attempt to rebuild ie a stage five clinger....

Already been on hikes and walks with the puppy and friends....one good thing about Colorado is it doesnt take much to get out of the city...but again sucks to do it alone.

[Nick_Ninja]

I don't want to waste my potential on him.

I could have talked about him "Taking in the rear for a beer." Being a cum guzzleing, cock holster... But I don't think that he's ready to come out the closet yet.

Besides Snowman is ALRIGHT in my book.

Sounds like somethin' right out of Brokeback Mountain.

[Mel]

Geez. I only said that because quite a few people mentioned it. I didn't want to bore or depress you or anyone else by posting my reasons. Honestly I figured she would know why I would say that. I certainly didn't expect a PM from her or anyone else but I also didn't want to get called out for not explaining myself.



Oh and another thing I found that really helps me when I have a lot on my mind is going on walks or hikes out in the middle of nowhere. Just me and the trees. Find a nice quiet spot and just sit there and breathe it in. Very peaceful.

You never know....the whole losing all your friends over the course of one stupid relationship followed by another, followed by the worst heartbreak you have ever felt in your life, and dealing with it alone because you just don't know what to do anymore, well.....yeah.

[DavidofColorado]

If your real hard core you can be like Jay Z and make a song denying your heartache.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dU3qtDoIyuM

[Devaclis]

[Suki]

take everything. every last penny, every ounce of his manhood, his pride, respect, take it all an when he's hit rock bottom kick him in the nuts and ask "who's the bitch now you fuckin faggot?" and then take his dog as you walk out.






i've never done that, but it could be used in a movie.

[Sortarican]

Oh and another thing I found that really helps me when I have a lot on my mind is going on walks or hikes out in the middle of nowhere....

I love girls who like the outdoors.


(It's so much easier if they walk out into the woods on their own. Then I only need the shovel and lye.)

....the whole losing all your friends over the course of one stupid relationship followed by another, followed ....

That could never happen to you Mel.........you have no friends.
(J/K Sunshine, nuthin but luv your ya always.)

And if this thread is autobiographical maybe you'll actually....I don't know....... COME OUT AND PLAY NOW!!!!!

[Devaclis]

Remember, sometimes they leave because it is your fault. You can't always blame someone else for sucking. I've tried.

[Mel]

Remember, sometimes they leave because it is your fault. You can't always blame someone else for sucking. I've tried.

Heh, because that is gonna make dealing with it better. Then you are alone, AND you hate yourself for screwing up and not being good enough to the point that they left.....